Mindfulness + Marriage


The way mindfulness connects to health concerns is always on the forefront of my mind when I talk to patients.  So naturally, I was intrigued when I read an article about how mindfulness impacts a marriage.

This article, “Why women leave men they love – what every man needs to know” was written by a counsellor named Justice Schanfarber, who is located in British Columbia.  It was a fascinating piece about the husbands and wives who have no major dysfunction in their relationships yet find their bond eroding.  The article focused on why people who love each other find they drift apart and lose connection along the way.  As distance grows there is a lack of togetherness and over time a marriage can fall apart.

This is a prominent marital concern given our modern day pace. Some marriages make it through and some do not.  His article is a reminder about how it’s the little things that happen every day that can hold something bigger together, like a marriage, just like it does health.

Schanfarber writes:

“While many situations are complex, there’s one profoundly simple truth that men need to know. It’s this – Women leave men they love.

They feel terrible about it. It tears the heart out of them. But they do it. They rally their courage and their resources and they leave. Women leave men with whom they have children, homes and lives. Women leave for many reasons, but there’s one reason in particular that haunts me, one that I want men to understand:

Women leave because their man is not present.”

let go

Although this article is directed towards husbands, it certainly can certainly apply to both husbands and wives.  Mindfulness between spouses can contribute to the glue that keeps them together and the nourishment needed for the love they have.

This is a great article to read, share with your spouse, read with your spouse or share with a friend or family member who may relate.  It could make a difference in your life or theirs.  To read the whole article, click here: Why women leave men they love – what every man needs to know.

If you want to work on mindfulness with me, join me for tujawellness’ 30 Day Meditation Challenge.  Just like healthy eating, learning to be present and mindful requires practice.  The more familiar we become with mindfulness the easier it is to make it part of everyday.


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